It has been a somewhat stressful week for me. There have been a few changes I needed to sort out. Some of them would benefit me, such as a longer extension for my student visa that is about to expire. However, some administrative procedures result in a delay in my visa application process.
This delay is really making me nervous. We certainly do not want to have my husband’s work visa expired before the new one is approved. I really hate to push or nag people, but there are circumstances where I need to become more ‘assertive’ to get things done.
I tend to be organised and well-planned. As you may have guessed, I get so irritable when things become unpredictable or somewhat out of control. This really distracted me and kept me from getting some assignments done. As a result, I have much of unfinished ‘homework’ this weekend. Not to mention how it stresses me out to think about the upcoming deadlines in the next couple of weeks.
Longing for solitude as a way of practicing self-compassion
At times like this, I just feel this longing for solitude. A type of solitude that is more like ‘an imaginative space’ in my mind than physical solitude. A calm, quiet space where I can breathe slowly and deeply. Where I can feed myself with gentle thoughts with soft music playing in the background. This change of internal atmosphere will help positive emotions starts flowing.
I used to have a list of favourite slow songs that I could associate with a sense of peace whenever I played them. I think listening to soft music while creating this ‘safe place’ in my mind is one of the most effective ways for me in terms of practising self-compassion.
So, how about you? When was the last time you practised self-compassion and what is your favourite way of doing it? Perhaps it is positive self-talk such as telling yourself You are Enough? Please share in the comments.